My Old Parents are Getting Divorce ...

An elderly man in Mumbai calls his son in New York and says,
'I hate to ruin your day son, but I have to tell you that your mother and I are getting a divorce; 35 years of marriage... and that much misery is enough!'
'Dad, what are you talking about?' the son screams.
'We can't stand the sight of each other any longer,' the old man says.
'We're sick of each other, and I'm sick of talking about this, so you call your sister in Hong Kong and tell her!'
Frantic, the son calls his sister, who explodes on the phone.
'Like heck they're getting divorced,' she shouts, 'I'll take care of this.'
She calls Mumbai immediately, and screams at the old man, 'You are not getting divorced. Don't do a single thing until I get there. I'm calling my brother back, and we'll both be there tomorrow. Until then , don't do a thing, DO YOU HEAR??' and she hangs up.
The old man hangs up his phone and turns to his wife.. 'Okay', he says, 'It's all set. They're both coming for our anniversary and paying their own airfare!!'

MORAL:
No man / woman is busy in this world all 365 days.
The sky is not going to fall down if you take few days LEAVE and meet your dear ones.
OFFICE WORK IS NOT EVERYTHING IN LIFE and MONEY MAKING IS NOT EVERYTHING IN LIFE.

My Mom Had Only One Eye!!!

A Touching Story............

My mom only had one eye. I hated her... She was such an embarrassment. She cooked for students and teachers to support the family.

There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to say hello to me. I was so embarrassed.

How could she do this to me? I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school one of my classmates said, 'EEEE, your mom only has one eye!'

I wanted to bury myself. I also wanted my mom to just disappear. I confronted her that day and said, ' If you're only gonna make me a laughing stock, why don't you just die?'

My mom did not respond... I didn't even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because I was full of anger. I was oblivious to her feelings.

I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with her. So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.

Then, I got married.. I bought a house of my own. I had kids of my own. I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts. Then one day, my Mother came to visit me. She hadn't seen me in years and she didn't even meet her grandchildren.

When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at her for coming over uninvited. I screamed at her, 'How dare you come to my house and scare my children!' GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!'

And to this, my mother quietly answered, 'Oh, I'm so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address,' and she disappeared out of sight.

One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip. After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.

My neighbors said that she died. I did not shed a single tear. They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.

'My dearest son,

I think of you all the time. I'm sorry that I came to your house and scared your children.

I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you. I'm sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were growing up.

You see........when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you having to grow up with one eye. So I gave you mine.

I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye.

With all my love to you,

Your mother.

Advice on Tension by Bill Gates

One Moment listen please

The Moment you are in Tension
You will lose your Attention
Then you are in total Confusion
And you will feel Irritation
Then you will spoil personal Relation

Ultimately, you won't get Co - Operation
Then you will make things Complication
Then your blood pressure may raise Caution
And you may have to take Medication
Instead, understand the Situation
And try to think about the Solution

Many problems will be solved by Discussion
This will work out better in your Profession
Don't think it's my free Suggestion
It's only for your Prevention
If you understand my Intention
You will never come again to Tension

Is The Glass Half-Full Or Half-Empty?

Half a glass of water in never just half full nor is it ever just half empty. It is always half full and always half empty. So when we teach our children to look on the bright side it is indeed bright to look at half a glass as half full and not as half empty. But we are teaching our children a half truth. It is always brighter to teach our children the full truth. When you show them half a glass of water tell them it is half full and half empty. The brightest move would be to show them the empty part and tell them that this empty part is their opportunity to fill up the glass. by Sajid Khan

Keep focusing on the fullness of your life: Keep remembering your dreams, your strengths, your unique talents and skills. Be absolutely, uniquely, fully yourself and you have everything you need to create the life of your dreams. -Marc Allen

The reason you're not living your dreams is because not all parts of you are in alignment with your promise.

Your dream will not actualize until you have all the skills you need. Since it takes time to cultivate the full glass, you will find your glass only half-full or half-empty.

As you work on developing all your skills, you will also be buffeted by stronger forces.

If you want to be a writer, you have to learn the craft. Assuming you know how to be clear and expressive, you may still find yourself unpublished. So you need the additional skill of learning how to market your writing.

Only when all your skills are complete will you be able to fully express your dream.

This gap between talent and opportunity can be bridged once you discover what you need to learn.

While you're in this state of trying to develop the entire experience, you will face opposition. Stronger ego states and life conditions will press hard against you.

Those ego-states concerned with approval, safety, and control will keep you away from cultivating your dream.

Similarly environmental conditions arising from past experiences will distract you.

These two conditions are sufficient to keep most people living inauthentic lives, where they do what works but not what gives them true self-expression and joy.

It is at these times of trial and hardship that you may be tempted to focus on looking at the glass as half-empty.

Yet the only way to raise your child-genius into full maturity is to persist.

You have to hold your vision despite low moods, alternate desires, and pressing circumstances.

Talent is seldom nurtured in ideal environments. Usually, you have to tend the small flame of your dreams in the face of strong winds. Only by persisting will you eventually have a fire greater than an opposing draft.

You keep your dreams alive by focusing on how far you've come.

You have to hold your vision and practice it.

When you persist in this way, you'll move closer to your goals.

When you persist long enough, you'll find yourself living your dream.

Reference

Please Hear What I Am Not Saying by Charles L. Whitfield M.D.

Don't be fooled by me. Don't be fooled by the face I wear. For I wear a mask, a thousand masks, masks that I'm afraid to take off, and none of them is me. Pretending is an art that's second nature with me, but don't be fooled. For God's sake don't be fooled. I give you the impression that I'm secure, that all is sunny and unruffled with me, within as well as without, that confidence is my name and coolness my game, that the water's calm and I'm in command, and that I need no one. But don't believe me. My surface may seem smooth, but my surface is my mask, ever-varying and ever-concealing. Beneath lies no complacence. Beneath lies confusion and fear and aloneness. But I hide this. I don't want anybody to know it. I panic at the thought of my weakness and fear being exposed. That's why I frantically create a mask to hide behind, a nonchalant sophisticated facade, to help me pretend, to shield me from the glance that knows. But such a glance is precisely my salvation. My only hope and I know it. That is, if it's followed by acceptance, if it's followed by love. It's the only thing that can liberate me from myself, from my own self-built prison walls, from the barriers I so painstakingly erect. It's the only thing that will assure me of what I can't assure myself, that I'm really worth something. But I don't tell you this. I don't dare. I'm afraid to. I'm afraid your glance will not be followed by acceptance, will not be followed by love. I'm afraid you'll think less of me, that you'll laugh, and your laugh would kill me. I'm afraid that deep-down I'm nothing, that I'm just no good, and that you will see this and reject me. So I play my game, my desperate pretending game, with a facade of assurance without and a trembling child within. So begins the glittering but empty parade of masks, and my life becomes a front. I idly chatter to you in the suave tones of surface talk. I tell you everything that's really nothing, and nothing of what's everything, of what's crying within me. So when I'm going through my routine, do not be fooled by what I'm saying. Please listen carefully and try to hear what I'm not saying; what I'd like to be able to say, what for survival I need to say, but what I can't say. I don't like to hide. I don't like to play superficial phony games. I want to stop playing them. I want to be genuine and spontaneous and me, but you've got to help me. You've got to hold out your hand even when that's the last thing I seem to want. Only you can wipe away from my eyes the blank stare of the breathing dead. Only you can call me into aliveness. Each time you're kind and gentle and encouraging, each time you try to understand because you really care, my heart begins to grow wings, very small wings, very feeble wings but wings! With your power to touch me into feeling, you can breathe life into me. I want you to know that. I want you to know how important you are to me, how you can be a creator - an honest-to-God creator - of the person that is me if you choose to. You alone can break down the wall behind which I tremble, you alone can remove my mask, you alone can release me from my shadow-world of panic and uncertainty, from my lonely prison, if you choose. Please choose to. Do not pass me by. It will not be easy for you. A long conviction of worthlessness builds strong walls. The nearer you approach to me the blinder I may strike back. It's irrational, but despite what the books say about man, often I am irrational. I fight against the very thing that I cry out for. But I am told that love is stronger than strong walls, and in this lies my hope. Please try to beat down those walls with firm hands but with gentle hands for a child is very sensitive. Who am I, you may wonder? I am someone you know very well. For I am every man you meet and I am every woman you meet. by Charles L. Whitfield M.D.

Who Is Poor & Who Is Rich ?

One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live.They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family.On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, "How was the trip?""It was great, Dad.""Did you see how poor people live?" the father asked."Oh yeah," said the son."So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?" asked the father.The son answered:"I saw that we have one dog and they had four.We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end.We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night.Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon.We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight.We have servants who serve us, but they serve others.We buy our food, but they grow theirs.We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them."The boy's father was speechless.Then his son added, "Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are."Isn't perspective a wonderful thing? Makes you wonder what would happen if we all gave thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what we don't have.

How To Avoid Lying?

Once there was a thief,he went to stole at palace and got caught. And the king was going to kill him ... so the thief suddenly remembered the buddha ... thought that " only the buddha can help me now" ... so he said i m buddha's niecethen the king said if it is true then i ll let u go ... if it is not then i ll kill u ...And the king sent his man to see the buddha and asked the buddha ... when they reached there they asked the buddha wheather it is true or not that the thief is his niece?so the buddha thought if i said the truth he will ve to die juz for stoling ...if i dun tell the truth then i m telling lie ... so at last he said to the king's man " who said that he is not my niece " . Then the king let the thief go ...
The thief became one of the monk at the buddha monastry ...


Telling the truth is good but not always ...
If it is good for both party then say it, do it ...
If it is not good for both party dun say it ,do it ...

I heard this story from the monk cuz ppl asked how can we avoid lying ...

How To Take Insult?

On one occasion, the Buddha was invited by the Brahmin Bharadvaja for alms to his house. As invited, the Buddha visited the house of the Brahmin(ayayghi/poneNa). Instead of entertaining Him, the Brahmin poured forth a torrent of abuse with the filthiest of words. The Buddha politely inquired:
"Do visitors come to your house, good Brahmin?""Yes," he replied."What do yu do when they come?""Oh, we prepare a sumptuous feast.""What do you if they refuse to receive the meal?""Why, we gladly partake of them ourselves.""Well, good Brahmin, you have invited me for alms and entertained me with abuse which I decline to accept. So now it belongs to you."
From the Akkosa Sutta
The Buddha did not retaliate but politely gave back what the Brahmin had given Him. Retaliate not, the Buddha advised.
"Hatred does not cease through hatred but through love alone they cease."

An Irish Blessing

An Irish Blessing

A philosophy professor stood before his class and had some items in front of
him. When class began, wordlessly he picked up a large empty mayonnaise jar
and proceeded to fill it with rocks right to the top, rocks about 2" in
diameter. He then asked the students if the jar was full? They agreed that it
was. So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them in to
the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles,of course, rolled into the
open areas between the rocks. The students laughed. He asked his students
again if the jar was full? They agreed that yes, it was. The professor then
picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand
filled up every-thing else.

"Now," said the professor, "I want you to recognize that this is your life.
The rocks are the important things - your family, your partner, your health,
your children - anything that is so important to you that if it were lost,
you would be nearly destroyed. The pebbles are the other things in life that
matter, but on a smaller scale. The pebbles represent things like your job,
house, or car. The sand is everything else, the small stuff."

"If you put the sand or the pebbles into the jar first, there is no room for
the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your energy and time
on the small stuff, material things, you will never have room for the things
that are truly most important."

1. ****** Pay attention to the things that are critical in your life.
2. ****** Play with your children.
3. ****** Take time to get medical checkups.
4. ****** Take your partner out dancing.
5. ****** There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a
6. dinner party and fix the disposal.
7. ****** Take care of the rocks first - the things that really matter.
8. ****** Set your priorities, the rest is just pebbles and sand.
9. ****** May there always be work for your hands to do;
10. ****** May your purse always hold a coin or two;
11. ****** May the sun always shine on your windowpane;
12. ****** May a rainbow be certain to follow each rain;
13. ****** May the hand of a friend always be near you;

Two Great Painters by James Baldwin

There was once a painter whose name was Zeuxis. [Footnote: Zeuxis
(_pro_. zuke'sis).] He could paint pictures so life-like that they were
mistaken for the real things which they represented.

At one time he painted the picture of some fruit which was so real
that the birds flew down and pecked at it. This made him very proud
of his skill.

"I am the only man in the world who can paint a picture so true to
life," he said.

There was another famous artist whose name was Parrhasius. [Footnote:
Parrhasius (_pro_. pa ra'shl us).] When he heard of the boast which
Zeuxis had made, he said to himself, "I will see what I can do."

So he painted a beautiful picture which seemed to be covered with a
curtain. Then he invited Zeuxis to come and see it.

Zeuxis looked at it closely. "Draw the curtain aside and show us the
picture," he said.

Parrhasius laughed and answered, "The curtain is the picture."

"Well," said Zeuxis, "you have beaten me this time, and I shall boast
no more. I deceived only the birds, but you have deceived me, a
painter."

Some time after this, Zeuxis painted another wonderful picture. It was
that of a boy carrying a basket of ripe red cherries. When he hung
this painting outside of his door, some birds flew down and tried to
carry the cherries away.

"Ah! this picture is a failure," he said. "For if the boy had been as
well painted as the cherries, the birds would have been afraid to come
near him."

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What Did You Learn Here ???

Here Is What My Friend Have Learned ...

oh,,well,,,i realised that three things,,,
firstly,both of the painters r v clever in own way,,,(like everybody in this world r worth 4 something,,,&,everyone has their own value).
secondly,two different painters with different characters,,,,,the first painter,zeuxis was v proud of his skills n v boastful,,according 2 saying that i m the best painter,,,,,(no one could b the best,,,,,,,apart frm Buddha) thats wat i believe,,,but even buddha never said that himself,,i m the best in the world,,,,
the second painter,parrhasius,who is v clever but never menetion that i m the best or so ,,,,n he gave a lesson 2 that boastful 1so i think the second painter has higher IQ n knows how 2 live in life,
However, in the last,zeuxis accepted the truth,,,,,he himself is a great painter too and he is to be respect more for his actions like he dare to admit his mistake and he admire or give respect to whom he should ...

The Present by Spencer Johnson

"The most valuable present in your life is the present"

Be in the present
When u want to be happy and successful
Focus on what is right now
Use ur purpose to respond
To what is important now

Learn from the past
When u want to make the present better than the past
Look at what happened in the past
Learn something valuable from it
Do things differently in the present

Plan for the future
When u want to make the future better than the present
See what a wonderful future would look like
Make plans to help it happen
Put ur plan into action in the present
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Some other valuable words
From the present

Success is something we all define for ourselves at different stages of ourlives.
Success is progressing toward whatever u think is important

The more u look at what is wrong the less energy n confidence u have.
So,when u find urself in the bad situation,it's very important to look for wat is right.even if it is hard
to find.Then appreciate it and bulid on it.

Wat if the present is very painful,like experiencing the loss of a loved one ?
It is important to experience painful situations and learn from them rather than try to distract urself with something else.
Pain in the present,like everything else,is constantly changing.It will come and go.
When u stay fully in the present and have felt the pain,and feel drained by it,u can begin to look for what is right,and bulid on it.
Begun to appreciate what is waiting out there for u to discover.

It is hard to let go of the past if u have not learned from the past.
As soon as u learn and let go u improve the present

No one can predict or control the future
However the more u plan for wat u want to see happen the less anxious u are in the present
and the more the future is knwon to u.
The importand thing is to do something every day,even if u think it is a small thing,to help make that
wonderful future happen.
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if u find it useful for u and worth for u then wish u can share with others too ...
"Every moment is another chance,so waiting for the chances is loosing ur chances!"